I got involved in a thread over at the Tea House recently, and it started me thinking about bad times. Many of us see ourselves as spiritual people, and that’s easy to see when things are going our way. But when the going gets tough, and the cracks in our composure start to show, we often feel like we’ve failed spiritually.
I feel that there’s a tendency to overlook our very human limitations, we over-focus on the nice things and forget that there are other nastier traits there as well. When these traits surface, we’re shocked because we’d been so busy tending to one side of things, we’d quite neglected the other side.
These things are part of our nature, we try to pretend they’re not there and we set ourselves up for failure by trying to match up to the image we have of our spiritual idols. Thing is, they were human too, we just never got to see the nasty side of them.
When the going gets tough, we may not match up to our lofty ideals, but that doesn’t make us spiritual failures. These times can be as much a source of true spiritual development as the good times.